Redirection > Rejection

What if hearing "no" ended up being the best thing you could hear?

Now, don't get me wrong, hearing no stings me just as much as anyone.

Trust me, I've heard my fair share of no's in my life through working in sales, law firms, and now running my own business as a keynote speaker and coach.

Frankly, it used to send me down a rabbit hole of self-doubt.

Then, a simple reframing put me on a different, empowering route that changed everything.

No isn't a dead end, it's a detour.

So, even before you put yourself in a position to hear yes or no, I want you to think of the following things to prepare yourself mentally:

1. I will prepare for what's coming and give it my all and that's what I can control.

2. The goal is to hear "yes"

3. If it's a "no", I will quickly assess if there was anything I could do better

4. I will then immediately think/say to myself, "That's ok, this frees me up for something bigger/better."

The detour of no pushes you to the right thing for you. It allows you to keep showing up and trying.

I had an instance just last month where I was SURE that a yes was coming. I had to block off about 3 weeks of my calendar to potentially travel internationally for this HUGE opportunity.

It didn't come through after all.

But what I did, instead of sitting in my own self-pity and doubt, was say "Ok, so that's not the right path, what can I do in this time that I now have?"

So, over the past three weeks, I've doubled down on marketing, organization, outreach, fine-tuning my processes, and frankly, I've had some of the best conversations I've ever had.

The detour reaped tons of benefits.

What's a moment that felt like failure to you, but actually created growth?